When we refuse to remember the pain of early experiences - projecting it onto others and making it about them, rather than sitting with it and feeling it ourselves - rather than resolve the problem, we compound it.
This is one way that we pass on pain through the generations.
In our inability to sit with our own pain, we ask others to contain it for us through dynamics such as projection.
It is identifying in someone else what we should be identifying in ourself.
Displacing a painful feeling by dumping it onto an unsuspecting receiver does not allow us to do the inner work we require to be whole and healthy, and it crosses another person's boundary in an unfair, unhealthy way.
Our greatest potential for learning is in studying ourselves with honesty and openness.
The wish for healing has ever been the half of health. ~ Seneca