Admitting Fault

If we look at problems that we are involved with from all angles, we may come to see that we are partially at fault for a miscommunication or a destructive dynamic.

If this happens, we need to have the strength of character to admit our own fault to ourselves rather than blame another.

After we get this far, we may see that a change in our behavior is necessary in order to set the situation in a more positive motion; it will improve our side of the dynamic.

Even if we recognize a conflict as such, we must be willing and able to renounce one of the two contradictory issues. But the capacity for clear and conscious renunciationis rare, because our feelings and beliefs are muddled, and perhaps because in the last analysis most people are not secure and happy enough to renounce anything. Finally, to make a decision presupposes the willingness and capacity to assume responsibility for it. This would include the risk of making a wrong decision and the willingness to bear the consequences without blaming others for them. ~ Karen Horney, M.D